Genesis 27:41

King James Version (KJV)

And Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing wherewith his father blessed him: and Esau said in his heart, The days of mourning for my father are at hand; then will I slay my brother Jacob.

Translations

Genesis 27:41 - Amplified Bible

And Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing with which his father blessed him; and Esau said in his heart, The days of mourning for my father are very near. When [he is gone] I will kill my brother Jacob.

Genesis 27:41 - American Standard Version

And Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing wherewith his father blessed him. And Esau said in his heart, The days of mourning for my father are at hand. Then will I slay my brother Jacob.

Genesis 27:41 - Bible in Basic English

So Esau was full of hate for Jacob because of his father's blessing; and he said in his heart, The days of weeping for my father are near; then I will put my brother Jacob to death.

Genesis 27:41 - Darby Bible

And Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing with which his father had blessed him. And Esau said in his heart, The days of mourning for my father are at hand, and I will slay my brother Jacob.

Genesis 27:41 - English Standard Version

Now Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing with which his father had blessed him, and Esau said to himself, "The days of mourning for my father are approaching; then I will kill my brother Jacob."

Genesis 27:41 - King James Version

And Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing wherewith his father blessed him: and Esau said in his heart, The days of mourning for my father are at hand; then will I slay my brother Jacob.

Genesis 27:41 - La Biblia de las Americas

Esaù, pues, guardò rencor a Jacob a causa de la bendiciòn con que su padre lo habìa bendecido; y Esaù se dijo: Los dìas de luto por mi padre están cerca; entonces mataré a mi hermano Jacob.

Genesis 27:41 - The Message

Esau seethed in anger against Jacob because of the blessing his father had given him; he brooded, "The time for mourning my father’s death is close. And then I’ll kill my brother Jacob."

Genesis 27:41 - New American Standard Bible

So Esau bore a grudge against Jacob because of the blessing with which his father had blessed him; and Esau said to himself, "The days of mourning for my father are near; then I will kill my brother Jacob."

Genesis 27:41 - Nueva Biblia Latinoamericana de Hoy

Esaù, pues, guardò rencor a Jacob a causa de la bendiciòn con que su padre lo habìa bendecido; y Esaù se dijo: "Los dìas de luto por mi padre están cerca; entonces mataré a mi hermano Jacob."

Genesis 27:41 - World English Bible

Esau hated Jacob because of the blessing with which his father blessed him. Esau said in his heart, "The days of mourning for my father are at hand. Then I will kill my brother Jacob."

Genesis 27:41 - Young's Living Translation

And Esau hateth Jacob, because of the blessing with which his father blessed him, and Esau saith in his heart, `The days of mourning [for] my father draw near, and I slay Jacob my brother.`

Genesis 27:41 - Additional Comments

Jacob had taken both Esau's birthright and his blessing. Was Esau justified in holding his grudge against Jacob?
Isaac was alive during this rivalry between Jacob and Esau, and did nothing to prevent it. (Isaac died 40 years later - Gen 35:28-29). Once they separated (Jacob fled - vs 42, 43, 28:5), they did not see each other for 20 years.
Notice the hatred was so deep, that separation was not enough - Esau wanted to kill Jacob. Much of this probably stemmed from how the parents treated the brothers - Gen 25:28.
What can parents do about sibling rivalry?
- Love each child the same; make sure they know it
- Encourage each child in his or her unique area of interest or skill.
- Give them value in themselves, both in who they are and in the things they do that make them unique.
- It's essential for children to know an effective, equitable justice system exists in the home. Sibling rivalry is at its worst when there is an inadequate system of justice among children - where the "lawbreakers" do not get caught or if apprehended, are set free without standing trial. Or where there is unequal justice. In effect, it is like the wild west - with less law enforcement, there is more lawlessness.
- The rivalry may be due to a lack of attention from parents. If there is only a little attention given, they are fighting for the tidbits being given out. You need to spend focused time with each child, as well as time as a family, to help them to bond. It has been said, "Some children had rather be wanted for murder than not wanted at all." To them, an angry response is better than no response. Kids crave attention and value.
- Try to bring their feelings out in the open; help them verbalize their feelings.
- While you may understand what is bringing out wrong behavior, you still must not accept wrong behavior, and punish it and correct it as appropriate. Then, require first time obedience - the moment they bicker again, punish them in the manner you told them you would. Children are happiest when their parents enforce reasonable limits with love and dignity.
- Do activities to help them bond as a team. Maybe use games, pitting kids against the parents, or kids against a goal, or against some other common enemy (e.g. the player run by the computer).
- Learn their love language. Often the rivalry is because their love language isn't being met by the parent. The five love languages are Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch.
- Have family meetings and family fun nights, making sure each child has equal input, to show them their place in the family.
- Don't treat them all the same. Especially give them uniqueness by age - treat each as their age dictates.
- Have planned activities, maybe work days, where they do work to help the other. Maybe trade chores.
- Teach Biblical principles to them about pride vs selfishness, lazy vs hard work, giving, honor to others, etc.
- Prepare them for a life as friends, sharing and needing each other.
In the James Dobson home, here were the boundaries and rules that evolved through the years in his home:
- Neither child was ever allowed to make fun of the other in a destructive way. Period! This was an inflexible rule with no exceptions.
- Each child's room was his or her private territory. There were locks on both doors, and permission to enter was a revocable privilege. (Families with more than one child in each bedroom can allocate available living space for each youngster.)
- The older child was not permitted to tease the younger child.
- The younger child was forbidden to harass the older child.
- The children were not required to play with each other when they preferred to be alone or with other friends.
- We mediated any genuine conflict as quickly as possible, being careful to show impartiality and extreme fairness.
As with any plan of justice, this plan requires (1) children's respect for leadership of the parent, (2) willingness by the parent to mediate, (3) occasional enforcement of punishment. When this approach is accomplished with love, the emotional tone of the home can be changed from one of hatred to (at least) tolerance.
When there is a conflict, here are steps to take on individual problems:
1. Define the problem.
2. Generate solutions, evaluate them, then select a solution.
3. Implement the solution.
4. Later, evaluate the results.

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