2 Samuel 1:11

King James Version (KJV)

Then David took hold on his clothes, and rent them; and likewise all the men that were with him:

Translations

2 Samuel 1:11 - Amplified Bible

Then David grasped his own clothes and tore them; so did all the men with him.

2 Samuel 1:11 - American Standard Version

Then David took hold on his clothes, and rent them; and likewise all the men that were with him:

2 Samuel 1:11 - Bible in Basic English

Then David gave way to bitter grief, and so did all the men who were with him:

2 Samuel 1:11 - Darby Bible

Then David took hold of his garments and rent them; and all the men that were with him [did] likewise.

2 Samuel 1:11 - English Standard Version

Then David took hold of his clothes and tore them, and so did all the men who were with him.

2 Samuel 1:11 - King James Version

Then David took hold on his clothes, and rent them; and likewise all the men that were with him:

2 Samuel 1:11 - La Biblia de las Americas

Entonces David agarrò sus ropas y las rasgò, y asì hicieron también todos los hombres que estaban con él.

2 Samuel 1:11 - The Message

In lament, David ripped his clothes to ribbons. All the men with him did the same. They wept and fasted the rest of the day, grieving the death of Saul and his son Jonathan, and also the army of God and the nation Israel, victims in a failed battle.

2 Samuel 1:11 - New American Standard Bible

Then David took hold of his clothes and tore them, and {so} also {did} all the men who {were} with him.

2 Samuel 1:11 - Nueva Biblia Latinoamericana de Hoy

Entonces David agarrò sus ropas y las rasgò, y asì hicieron también todos los hombres que estaban con él.

2 Samuel 1:11 - World English Bible

Then David took hold on his clothes, and tore them; and likewise all the men who were with him:

2 Samuel 1:11 - Young's Living Translation

And David taketh hold on his garments, and rendeth them, and also all the men who [are] with him,

2 Samuel 1:11 - Additional Comments

While those around David may have been glad to hear of Saul's death, David grieved, and so did those with him. David also grieved for Jonathan and Saul's army.
The seven stages of grief:
1. SHOCK & DENIAL
You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks.
2. PAIN & GUILT
As the shock wears off, it is replaced with the suffering of unbelievable pain. Although excruciating and almost unbearable, it is important that you experience the pain fully, and not hide it, avoid it or escape from it with alcohol or drugs.
You may have guilty feelings or remorse over things you did or didn't do with your loved one. Life feels chaotic and scary during this phase.
3. ANGER & BARGAINING
Frustration gives way to anger, and you may lash out and lay unwarranted blame for the death on someone else. Please try to control this, as permanent damage to your relationships may result. This is a time for the release of bottled up emotion.
You may rail against fate, questioning "Why me?" You may also try to bargain in vain with the powers that be for a way out of your despair ("I will never drink again if you just bring him back")
4. "DEPRESSION", REFLECTION, LONELINESS
Just when your friends may think you should be getting on with your life, a long period of sad reflection will likely overtake you. This is a normal stage of grief, so do not be "talked out of it" by well-meaning outsiders. Encouragement from others is not helpful to you during this stage of grieving.
During this time, you finally realize the true magnitude of your loss, and it depresses you. You may isolate yourself on purpose, reflect on things you did with your lost one, and focus on memories of the past. You may sense feelings of emptiness or despair.
5. THE UPWARD TURN
As you start to adjust to life without your dear one, your life becomes a little calmer and more organized. Your physical symptoms lessen, and your "depression" begins to lift slightly.
6. RECONSTRUCTION & WORKING THROUGH
As you become more functional, your mind starts working again, and you will find yourself seeking realistic solutions to problems posed by life without your loved one. You will start to work on practical and financial problems and reconstructing yourself and your life without him or her.
7. ACCEPTANCE & HOPE
During this, the last of the seven stages in this grief model, you learn to accept and deal with the reality of your situation. Acceptance does not necessarily mean instant happiness. Given the pain and turmoil you have experienced, you can never return to the carefree, untroubled YOU that existed before this tragedy. But you will find a way forward.
You will start to look forward and actually plan things for the future. Eventually, you will be able to think about your lost loved one without pain; sadness, yes, but the wrenching pain will be gone. You will once again anticipate some good times to come, and yes, even find joy again in the experience of living.
Do's and don'ts for providing support and comfort to a grieving adult
Don't
- Don't try to avoid the bereaved person
- Don't pry into personal matters
- Don't ask questions about the circumstances of the death; but do be open to hearing whatever the bereaved wants to say about it.
- Don't offer advice or quick solutions
- "I know how you feel."
- "You should _____ ."
- "Time heals all wounds."
- Don't try to cheer up the person or distract them from the emotional intensity
- "At least he's no longer in pain."
- "She's in a better place now."
- "It was God's timing/will."
- Don't minimize the loss
- "Oh, it's not that bad."
- "You'll be okay."
- "Things will go back to normal before you know it."
Do
- Behave naturally
- Show genuine concern
- Offer love patiently and unconditionally
- Offer hugs or an arm around the shoulder, as appropriate
- Sit next to the person who wants closeness
- Make it clear that you are there to listen
- Express your care and concern
- Say that you are sorry about the loss
- Say "I love you" if you feel close enough
- Talk openly and directly about the person who died
- Cry if you feel like crying
- Keep in mind that evenings, weekends, anniversaries and holidays can be extra challenging times.
- Pick up the phone to just check in
- Offer to run errands or get groceries
- Drop off a casserole or other type of food
- Watch their children to provide them with some down time
- Tag along at a bereavement support group meeting
- Go for a brisk walk or shoot hoops together
- Share an enjoyable activity (game, puzzle, art project)
- Encourage going out and socializing once the person feels ready
- If you recognize that the grieving person is experiencing depression, urge him or her to get professional help.

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