2 Samuel 13:15

King James Version (KJV)

Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone.

Translations

2 Samuel 13:15 - Amplified Bible

Then Amnon hated her exceedingly, so that his hatred for her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, Get up and get out!

2 Samuel 13:15 - American Standard Version

Then Amnon hated her with exceeding great hatred; for the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone.

2 Samuel 13:15 - Bible in Basic English

Then Amnon was full of hate for her, hating her with a hate greater than his earlier love for her. And he said to her, Get up and be gone.

2 Samuel 13:15 - Darby Bible

And Amnon hated her with an exceeding great hatred, for the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, Arise, be gone.

2 Samuel 13:15 - English Standard Version

Then Amnon hated her with very great hatred, so that the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, "Get up! Go!"

2 Samuel 13:15 - King James Version

Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto her, Arise, be gone.

2 Samuel 13:15 - La Biblia de las Americas

Entonces Amnòn la aborreciò con un odio muy grande; porque el odio con que la aborreciò fue mayor que el amor con que la habìa amado. Y Amnòn le dijo: Levántate, vete.

2 Samuel 13:15 - The Message

No sooner had Amnon raped her than he hated her—an immense hatred. The hatred that he felt for her was greater than the love he’d had for her. "Get up," he said, "and get out!"

2 Samuel 13:15 - New American Standard Bible

Then Amnon hated her with a very great hatred; for the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, "Get up, go away!"

2 Samuel 13:15 - Nueva Biblia Latinoamericana de Hoy

Entonces Amnòn la aborreciò con un odio muy grande; porque el odio con que la aborreciò fue mayor que el amor con que la habìa amado. Y Amnòn le dijo: "Levántate, vete."

2 Samuel 13:15 - World English Bible

Then Amnon hated her with exceeding great hatred; for the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. Amnon said to her, Arise, be gone.

2 Samuel 13:15 - Young's Living Translation

And Amnon hateth her -- a very great hatred -- that greater [is] the hatred with which he hath hated her than the love with which he loved her, and Amnon saith to her, `Rise, go.`

2 Samuel 13:15 - Additional Comments

Explore the reasons why people "fall in love" and get married. (Note that some factors are temporary, transient, and some are permanent.)
Explore how people react after they have sinned.
Let's take a look at how Amnon reacted after the sin - he hated Tamar with a hatred greater than his love he had for her, and he forces her away from him, having the door bolted behind her (vss 17-18).
How did this intense love turn into an even greater hatred? What caused this change? And what motivated Amnon to throw Tamar out of the house?
Any love which is dependent on a factor that is transient, once the factor is no more, the love is no more. What was the specific matter for Amnon? Verse 1 mentions she is lovely, but that wasn't the reason. Verse 2 mentions why Amnon felt sick - she was a virgin. It appears this is what drove his desire for her.
Some say that the failure of love does not necessarily equal hatred. The absence of one does not automatically imply the existence of the other. But some psychologists find a close link between love and hatred. When there are intense feelings one way, and something changes, there are still intense feelings, but in the other direction.
Perhaps, when Amnon became aware of the fact that he had hurt Tamar, he felt ashamed. The hatred which ensued developed as a result of his sense of shame for having violated an innocent virgin, none other than his own sister.
Perhaps Amnon, in order to defend against the intense anger he felt toward himself, directed this anger toward Tamar. The perpetrator attempts to deal with his act of injury by focusing all the passions and emotions that caused him to commit the injury into hatred for his victim. In this way, he absolves himself of all responsibility for his actions.
Perhaps when Amnon realizes what he has done, the sin becomes abhorrent to him. Thus, he strives to distance himself from the sin. Just as a person suffering from an illness tries to numb and reduce his pain, so too a sinner tries to distance himself from both the cause and the pain of the sin.
Perhaps before the sin, Amnon had been so totally bewitched by Tamareauty and had not understood why he had felt this way. Similarly, after the sin, Amnon became repulsed by her and could not bear to be near her - again for no reason that he could comprehend.
Perhaps after the sin, Amnon hated himself for having sinned, and this self-loathing was projected outward in hatred toward Tamar. Disgust mingled with shame caused hatred. Amnon identified Tamar with the sin itself and therefore hated her for what she represented. This was the only way that Amnon could resolve his sin - by cutting himself off and distancing himself from it.
When a person sins, the cause of the sin will become abhorrent to him and he will want to distance himself from it as much as possible. Not only will he distance himself from the actual sin, but he will also take precautions to ensure that he will not be able to sin again by making fenses. Having unsuccessfully asked Tamar to leave, he orders his servant to send her out and lock the door behind her. Amnon is so repulsed by Tamar that he cannot bring himself to say her name and calls her "et zot". This shows the extent to which sin affects a person; he becomes consumed by guilt and will go to great lengths to remove himself from the sin.
Based on the above understanding, we learn a lesson in love, and sin.
Lasting love will only be achieved if it is motivated by inherent, long-lasting factors.
Conversely, love based on transient factors which contain no inherent value will always have the potential to vanish.
Also, Amnon's irrational and surprising reaction to his sin was not caused by his intellect or any conscious thought on his part. Rather, it was a natural reaction. There was no time for thinking; instead Amnon reacted in an instinctive, emotional way over which he had no control.
Like Amnon, many sinners experience the desire to remove the cause, consequence and all memory of their sin. Amnon's reaction was the natural, almost inevitable, consequence of the circumstances. Whether the switch in Amnon's feelings was brought about by a response to the fact that he hurt her, or as a consequence of his having sinned, a feeling of guilt ensued which led to his intense hatred of Tamar.

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